How can I stay as independent as possible?

While there are many factors that help us stay independent one of the biggest is having meaningful relationships. These relationships include people, pets and places. Meaningful relationships keep us in a good mental space so that we can do all the other things that help us maintain our independence. 

Since childhood, Western society has instilled in us the value of independence. While there is value in developing self-sufficiency there has perhaps been an over emphasis on looking out for ourselves at the expense of seeing ourselves as part of the bigger group. Research shows that despite the difficulties we may face, being involved with others is good for our mental and physical health. In other words, we need each other.  

Thinking of one another, and learning to ‘give and take’ may be the glue that holds everything together. Having said this, most people want to continue doing the things for themselves that they are used to, for as long as possible and to also continue to do thing for others like continuing to volunteer. The following may help you retain a sense of independence yet keep the door open to support should you need it.  

• Stay connected to your friends, family/whānau and community as much as possible and take up offers of help when you need it. Also, see what you can do for others. (Don’t underestimate the value of a phone call.)
• Stay as fit and active as possible. Being more active improves your physical health, maximises your skills and abilities, boosts your confidence and increas­es the chemicals in your brain that improve your mood.
• Have a healthy diet, get enough sleep and reduce your alcohol intake. By taking care of these things, you’re better able to function at your best.
• Getting out and about is important. Enquire at Waka Kotahi and Age Concern about resources for drivers. Investigate subsidised taxi vouchers through the Total Mobility Scheme, you may qualify. Specialist driving/taxi services are invaluable to many people. A mobility scooter may be an option.
• Make work around the home as manageable as possible. Maybe you just need someone to work alongside you on cleaning and decluttering so you can feel on top of things. You will find services that can help on Making Life Easier.
• Build a good relationship with your healthcare team. They need to know what’s going on for you so they can best advise you and support you, now and in the future. Have you told your GP about anything that’s worrying you? Being actively involved in your health care helps you maintain your independence.
• You may be eligible for some funding assistance to help pay for a medical alarm, travel to medical appointments, prescriptions fees etc. The Ministry of Social Welfare (MSD) manage this type of assistance through specialised funding such as the Disability Allowance. Discuss this with your doctor first as they need to complete a doctor’s certificate as part of your application.
• Visit a mobility and equipment shop; it’s educative. You may find something you need now. Alternatively, store up this information for future reference.  You can find mobility and equipment suppliers on Making Life Easier, click Find services now.
• Plan ahead. Planning builds confidence and a sense of independence.
• Find opportunities to help others.  You can find opportunities for volunteering here.  Over 30% of volunteers in New Zealand are over 65. See: The State of Volunteering 2022